2 males and 1 female having a threesome in bed

If sex is starting to feel a little mundane, and you’ve already ticked off every Kama Sutra position or explored every crevice (around Singapore), and still find yourself stuck in a routine, it might be time to shake things up a bit. Ever thought about bringing in a third? After all, they say “Teamwork makes the dream work,” and when it comes to threesomes, that couldn’t be truer.. Imagine how amazing one mouth can make you feel—now picture two mouths working their magic. That’s not just a dream, it’s a full-on fantasy in motion.

But here’s the real kicker—how exactly do you bring up this spicy fantasy with your partner without accidentally starting a full-blown awkward situation? How do you make sure everyone’s vibing, that no one feels like a third wheel (pun intended), and most importantly, that you’re all laughing, orgasming, and having a damn good time? Trust us, this might feel like the trickiest part of a ménage à trois, but it doesn’t have to be as complicated as it sounds.

Don’t worry, we’ve got all the tips to make your threesome adventure less “What did I just get myself into?” and more “Why didn’t we do this sooner?” Let’s get started!

1. Open Up the Conversation

Alright, so you’ve decided to bring up the idea of a threesome—don’t panic. First things first: set the mood! Pick a relaxed, comfortable environment (think: cosy couch, a glass of wine, and some mood lighting) where you and your partner can chat openly without feeling rushed. Start off with some lighthearted fantasy talk—maybe bring up something silly or sexy you saw in a movie, or a wild "what if" scenario. Ease into it with humour and curiosity. This is about gauging comfort levels and making sure both of you are on the same page before diving in. No need to overthink it—keep it fun and flirty!

2. Be Honest About Your Intentions

This isn't just about ticking something off your bucket list—it’s about adding a little extra spice and variety to your sex life. So, why exactly do you want a threesome? Whether you’re curious, looking to experiment, or want to explore something new together, be clear about your intentions. Don’t just blurt out “I want a threesome!” without explaining why it excites you. Tell your partner what you’re hoping to get out of it—be it deeper intimacy, a fresh perspective on your relationship, or just a crazy adventure. Transparency is sexy, and it builds trust.

3. Choose the Right Person

Now comes the tricky part—picking the third player. It’s like casting a movie—except, in this case, the movie involves lots of nakedness. Choose someone who you both feel comfortable with, someone you trust, and preferably someone who isn’t a close friend (unless you want to deal with awkward brunches for the rest of your life). It’s important to consider someone who will vibe well with both of you. Chemistry matters, and this isn't a “let’s just invite anyone off the street” situation. Think of it like picking the right cocktail: it should go in, out, down, up, (whichever way you prefer) with no surprises.

4. Make It About Fun

Threesomes should be all about having fun and being playful—seriously, don’t turn it into an Olympic event. The best way to approach it is with the mindset that this is a fun adventure, not a checklist of things to accomplish. It’s an opportunity to bond with your partner in a new way and explore the boundaries of your sexual pleasure together. Make sure everyone feels comfortable enough to laugh, be silly, and enjoy the moment. If someone gets nervous or things feel too serious, just break the tension with a joke or playful comment. Laughter is the best aphrodisiac, after all.

5. Communicate Boundaries

This is one of the most important parts of a threesome—and also the least sexy to talk about, but we promise it’s a total game-changer. Set your boundaries early on: talk about what you're comfortable with and what’s totally off-limits. The last thing you want is any confusion during the heat of the moment. Here are some examples of things you might want to discuss:

    • "For me, I’m comfortable with oral sex from the third person, but I’d prefer not to engage in penetrative sex with them."
    • "I’m not into receiving oral from the other person, but I’m totally fine giving it. Just want to make sure we’re all on the same page."
    • "I’m okay with kissing the third person, but no swapping partners for the night. I want to keep it just us for certain things."
    • "I’m into the idea of mutual oral, but no anal play for me tonight—just a hard no."
    • "I’m good with touching, but I’d prefer to avoid any sexual acts that feel too close to a full-on swap."
    • "I’m open to watching but not partaking in certain things—let’s make sure everyone’s okay with that."
    • "I love the idea of getting double penetration, but I’m not into rough play, so no spanking or choking for me, please."

This ensures that everyone knows what to expect and can relax into the experience. You’ll be glad you laid it all out before things get hot and heavy.

2 females and 1 male having a threesome in bed

6. Use a Safe Word

Here’s where it gets real: things can get intense, and sometimes, we all need to hit the brakes. A safe word is like your emergency button for when someone feels uncomfortable or just needs a timeout. It’s super simple—make sure it’s something easy to remember, but not too embarrassing (you don’t want to yell "banana" in the middle of sex). When the word is said, everything stops. It’s a sign of respect and helps everyone stay in their comfort zone, keeping the experience both exciting and safe.

7. Use Humour

If the idea of a threesome already makes you a little nervous, lighten the mood with some good ol' fashioned humour. A cheeky joke, a playful comment, or a funny remark can instantly dissolve any tension and help everyone feel at ease. Remember, no one’s taking themselves too seriously here. The goal is to have a laugh, enjoy the adventure, and feel sexy while doing it. Sometimes the funniest moments make the best memories!

8. Be Respectful

Not everyone might be on board with the idea of a threesome, and that’s okay. The most important thing is to respect everyone’s feelings—whether it's your partner or the person you want to bring into the mix. If your partner isn’t into it, no problem—don't push them. The last thing you want is any pressure or resentment creeping into the fun.

9. Discuss Aftercare

So you’ve had the threesome of your dreams—now what? Aftercare is just as important as the main event. Take time to reconnect with your partner (and even the third person, if they’re cool with it). This could mean cuddling, chatting about how everything went, or simply checking in on each other's feelings. It's a great way to make sure everyone feels emotionally cared for after the physical experience. 

10. Celebrate the Experience

If it all goes as planned (and let’s hope it does), don’t forget to celebrate the experience afterwards! Whether it’s reminiscing about the best moments or indulging in a cheeky after-glow snack, take time to enjoy what you’ve just shared. You can also add in some jokes to lighten the entire mood like: 

    • ​​Well, that was better than Netflix and chill, huh? Think we’ve earned our own reality show?"
    • "So, when’s the sequel? I think we all deserve an award for that performance!"
    • "That was like a rollercoaster—highs, lows, and some serious screams... but we all survived!"
    • "Did we just redefine 'teamwork' or what?"
    • "Just remember, if you’re feeling sore tomorrow, it’s all part of the experience!"

You’ve just created a unique experience, so relish it and keep the connection strong. The most important thing? You had fun, you got closer, and you created some unforgettable memories together.

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